Regardless, spouses are not to harass each other during a divorce. This includes harassing and threatening each other in voice mails, texts, video chat, and electronic voice transmission and messaging, as well as in person, on social media, by telephone, and through third parties.
What to do if you and your soon-to-be-ex spouse cannot seem to communicate civilly?
- Take care of business- you will have to cooperate to be sure bills are paid, children are cared for, mail is picked up. Keep your communications matter-of-fact and businesslike.
- Go to your "calm place"- Whether it is counting to 10 or humming your favorite song, have something that you can do to "remind yourself" to keep it calm.
- Walk away, hang up the phone, ignore the text. Once you have taken care of essential business, its time to move on. "The last word" is often the one that starts trouble.
- Learn to say, "I'll think about it and get back to you."
Keep communications short, calm, and relevant to avoid problems.